We all look for advice from others from time to time, but that can be a slippery slope. Taking advice effectively involves being highly selective of the course, choosing mentors who align with your values and goals, and viewing counsel as an objective, adaptable tool rather than a directive to blindly follow. Here are some good pieces of advice that most people will ignore.
Ignore most advice. If you ask for advice, most people tell you what they would do, but you aren’t them. Learn to trust yourself, and check your thinking with the rare people who will take the time to step into your shoes.
No one knows what they’re doing. People come up with fancy stories about their lives, but no one has life figured out. If you’re confused or uncertain about your life, that’s how it’s supposed to be.
Speak with people older than you. Older people may not be up with the times, but they can teach you a lot about what actually matters in life. Just one day with older people can prevent years of wasted time on meaningless pursuits.
Say no to almost everything. Very few things matter on a 10-year time horizon. Get used to saying no to things that you don’t want to do. Life’s too short to please everyone.
Try new things. Challenge yourself. Stop obsessing about what other people think. Just do it; but know your limits.
Most decisions are reversible. Don’t obsess about making the “right” decision. Define the problem, list out the potential solutions, and choose a path forward. Some decisions are one-way doors, but most are not.
Slow down. Life passes quickly. Learn to slow down and enjoy what you have today, especially if you’re ambitious and driven. You can always get more done tomorrow.
Be around people who want the best for you. Be ruthless about removing negative and toxic people from your life. Especially during hard times, you need people who want the best for you.
Pay it forward. If someone helps you, pay it forward by helping someone else. Don’t underestimate the power of a small act of kindness.
